How I know I've met my soulmate

Okay I know, it's a little cheesy but hey Valentine's Day is around the corner. Then I was reading this about how do you know if you've met your soulmate and I thought I could share a couple points of my own.

1. He puts my needs in front of his... and so do I

No it's not done in obligatory  reciprocation... or well it is, kind of. But after being together for over five years, putting one another in front just comes naturally.

2. Same goals/visions in life

I'm pretty sure when we first got together, it wasn't really the same. After all we were in love and everything was covered by smoke screens. But as the weeks and months go by, we slowly gravitate towards the same ideas of life. 

For example - marriage and children. Something that A LOT of people have been asking us about. Somehow or rather we've gotten to a place where we both agree that the only difference between a married couple and us now... is a piece of paper. 

3. Best friends and lovers

This is so true. While we are wildly attracted to each other, we are also best friends. We are together pretty much all the time (except when we are at work) but we still have plenty to talk, laugh and dance around about. 

It gets painful for me (more me than him, I suppose) when we have to separate even for a couple of days. I confess, every time he leaves - I cry. I cry like he's just broken up with me. I cry like some one close to me has just died. He on the other hand, isn't that all visibly upset, that's all.

4. The little things

• So he's got a bad back, so I give him as many massages as he needs (and that I can). 
• He tells me all these funny (albeit sometimes facepalm inducing) jokes and riddles that keep me laughing. 
• Every once in a while we'll publicly show off some cheesy PDA. 
• We also mind our Ps & Qs (even to this day)

5. He can tell...

Whether I'm having a bad day.... if my period is about to come... or if I'm stressed. He's that intuitive. Instead of leaving me alone to deal with it... he comes up with ways to help me deal.

So yeah that's my list of how I know. What about you?

Never forgotten

27 years ago, my father passed away. For some reason, I felt some urge to write him a letter this year.

Dear Papa

It's 27 years today.

You will always be the one who let me play hot cross buns on your tum and mark it with a 'B'.

You will always be the one who brings me endless Vitagen.

You will always be the one who taught me how to balance my red BMX on three wheels.

I don't remember much, but I remember enough

Thank you.

Love and miss you, always and forever

The sad thing for me... is that I'm not really sure what sort of melancholy I'm feeling - the fact that I grew up without a father... or that I don't know what having a father feels like.

I do feel a void. But I'm not entirely sure what the void is. 

I do get jealous sometimes when people tell me stories about things they did with their dad(s), because I have no stories. I hear stories about how cool some of their dads are... or how some of their traits are exactly like their dads... I have none. The only thing I have is - I look exactly like him (which kinda makes me think that I look like a dude >.<)

These are the only three memories that I kind of remember of him. I thought hard and long... alas, these are all I remember.

The rest... are mostly stories I hear about him. Like from my mom - who keeps telling me how handsome he is (no mom, I still don't see it... sorry!) or family who tell me what a wonderful person he was. From what I gather, he was a very selfless guy who loved his family and home.

I wish I remembered more of him.

Wishlist 2014

So... I didn't come up with a wishlist in the last two years... partly because of procrastination :P

Looking back, my first wishlist included a mezzaluna, a netbook, shopping vouchers, dresses, boots and flight tickets. My second wishlist included VS body care products, a bunny outfit and a hand held blender. My third wishlist asked for a new digicam, VS body care products and dresses.

Then I realized, I've gotten pretty much everything on my wishlists - a Nigella Lawson mezzaluna, a HP Mini, dresses (I assure you this will be on going), two pairs of boots (one from Zara and the other from F21 - both were on sale), VS opened up in KL so I have my neverending supply, bunny outfit, handheld blender (which comes with a bunch of other whizzy thingamajiggies).

The only ones that are missing are free flight tickets and a new camera. So then I thought long and hard... what else do I want?

1. MacBook Pro.
I learnt from Pandora (my HP Mini) that netbooks are not the way to go. My rationale at that point was that I don't really use everything else on my previous laptop, which is why I thought it would make sense to go for a netbook.

Not entirely wrong... but netbooks (or at least mine) lags after a while. Then my battery died. So now I almost never use it.

But I'm a little on the fence with this because I don't know if I will actually be utilizing it or just getting it for the sake of getting it... Let me know what you think?

2. These awesome winged and heeled sneakers by Jeremy Scott for Adidas
I know, it looks a tad off. I was kinda laughing at it myself when I saw it because it didn't really make sense at that point. But I slide my foot in... and stepped up... SOLD! Now if only it's not that expensive!!! 

3. Own a Shiba Inu
Well okay maybe not in 2014 but in the near future. I want one of these fellas. SCHOOO CUTE, I'll die of squealing.

 

4. Meet a sloth
And now why wouldn't any one? Hehehe  

Yeah okay I think that's it for this year....

Elie Saab SS14

Ok. I'm a sucker for romantic girly dresses. If you've been following my blog, you would've seen romantic wedding gowns, mermaid/fishtail dresses and Marchesa.

Anyways Elie Saab has just released his Spring/Summer 2014 Couture collection (which you can view here) and HOMAIGAWDDD... it's an ethereal fairytale garden with splashes of romance and happily ever after.

Here are some of my favorites :)

 Pockets in dresses! Brilliant!

 

 Can someone spell ethereal goddess? 

Can't say the same for her expression though.

Ahhhh so pretty

I love how this is so girly elegant

Greek goddesses aren't afraid to show off a little leg

Love the juxtaposition of dark and girly florals

OMG SUPER LOVE!!! I think she looks like a deadly nightshade about to bloom. 

Delicate yet dangerous. 

But you can't help but want to get closer to it.

Black's always a timeless color. 

I love the hemline embellishment. 

Gorgeous. Simply gorgeous.

 

The man himself, Elie Saab. Thank you so much for this gorgeous collection!!!

Dreamy wedding dresses

Okay, I confess... I didn't go scouring the internet for these gorgeous dresses... rather I was inspired by this Buzzfeed post so much so that I thought that I'd repost it with my favourite ones :)

A intricately gorgeous back
From onetowed

Super dainty low-backed dress with an oh-so-soft layered dress
From Wanda Borges

I super love how delicate the straps are and how layered the dress is. Love love love.
From jlmcouture

This is definitely my favorite of the bunch. I love the Grecian
goddess look and it looks airy enough for tropical weathers!
From Shareen Vintage

In case you haven't noticed, I have this thing for dresses that
are delicate and have a lot of layers. But look! Oh so pretty!
Also from jlmcouture

Ok nothing is sexier than a lace-up back, now is there?
From weddbook

Ok not too crazy about the bolero but I do love how
the hemline reaches slightly around the ankles.
From Stephanie Allin

Classic heart shaped top, full skirt and pockets? SOLD!!!
From La Sposa

Butterflies!!! 'Nuff sed :)
From Elizabeth Fillmore Bridal

I love the sequins! The sparkliness it adds just gives it a
more magical kind of feel. Oh and it has pockets!
From the one and only Vera Wang

Love that China (the ceramics, not the country)
peeking out from the bottom of the hemlines
From jasminestar

I love how showing of some leg makes this
dress look even more elegant
From Paolo Sebastian

So what do you think?

Golden Globe garb!

I don't know about you but I really love awards season because of all the dresses.

Now I'm no fashionista and I do have pretty traditional/regular tastes so nothing too out there....

Anyways here are some of my favorite ones for the Golden Globes :)

 Jenna Dewan-Tatum looks absolutely gorgeous in this fish-tail dress. I love how the black bits help accentuate her figure and makes the dress look so delicate.

I do not believe that this woman is 50. Seriously? Look at that skin! *sigh*

Oh I LOVE how Sarah Hyland's dress looks so proper and demure up front... and it's all cool and sexy from the back!

Okay it took me a while to figure out what the pink prints were... my first few guesses were a bunch of umbrellas, then some flamingoes. But aww look at that glow!

I'm more in love with her look than her dress.

Okay fine her dress does kinda blend in with the red carpet but doesn't she just look super sizzling hot?

The Ice Queen doing what she does best. Smoulder people with her stare.

 

Okay, I'm not like a major fan of Hayden but I think she looks absolutely demure here. I love how the asymmetrical pattern on her dress forces you to look at her. Gorgeous.

Giuliana looking radiant as always. I love major tulle dresses. Makes me feel like some princess or ballerina. 

Okay I'm not sure who she is but she does remind me of Winona Ryder here with that dark brown bob, porcelain skin and a tinge of rouge. 

Update: Her name is Michelle Dockery. Still doesn't ring a bell for me. I have to google her up but she looks gorgeous and that's all I care for this post :P

Bombshell Sofia Vergara doesn't have to do much but I must say I am very intrigued by how her statement necklace complements her simple black dress.

Love love love it! *runs out to get some statement necklaces a pronto!*

Zosia Mamet's got this lovely floral dress thingie that reminds me of Jenna Dewan-Tatum's. I think I like Jenna's more but I would probably be able to pull this one off better :(

Yeah and these are my two least favorites. And the only reason why I'd even put them in here because usually love and agree with their styles

 Drew... seriously, what were you thinking?

Whomsoever responsible for this dress, should be put on probation. There's a thin line between simple sophistication and lazy. I call this lazy.

And I'm out!

So what defines you?

First post of the year and I am compelled by Lizzie Velasquez. 

This determined and cheerful young woman suffers from a super rare disease that has so far affected only three people (herself included) where they have no body fat. Like... None. At. All. 

Her question during a recent TED Talk prompted me to think really hard. Lizzie asked "What defines you?"

And it's really gotten me thinking. It's been about half an hour since I've watched this video and I still can't really figure out what defines me. Good one, and thank you Lizzie.

So I've decided let's start from the beginning...

As a young girl, what defined me was that I was a very good pianist, I spoke fluent English (coming from an Asian family living in South East Asia), I had good manners and my father had passed away.

Then in my teens, what defined me was how I was a struggling student. I wasn't an idiot. But I just wasn't that all interested in learning things in school and regurgitating how it works during exams. My friends were all doing well. I just couldn't entirely be bothered until my major finals.

College years were a little more fun for me. I was among the elite students and party girl that no one could mess with. College was surprisingly very easy for me so I graduated with a 3.75 GPA. I barely had to make an effort to succeed (the total opposite of secondary school) and spent a lot of time out partying, and that was what defined me.

Similarly in university, I only had to do two core units to pass and I kid you not when I say they were relatively easy units. So to fill up the rest of the credits, I decided to take things that I couldn't and wouldn't usually take up such as Myths & Legends, Film & Video, Third Year Japanese. But what was it that defined me then? I don't know. The girl who put on 20lbs within 6 month? The one who came with a twin attached? The girl who really loved bacon?

Then when I first started working - I had the whole notion that I'm gonna make it big. I'm going to be successful. I'm going to be the best writer the world has seen (we all know it's not true now hahaha) and I'm not going to let anything bring me down. 

Unfortunately my first job was incredibly taxing, so much so that I learnt to bottle things up and just get my job done. In the next few other jobs, I faced a similar problem with my superiors - the typical Asian-ness where the bosses are always right and you're never. Speak when you're spoken to. Don't get too chummy because I'm not your friend.

As you can see... I have lost my definition the moment I started transitioning into an adult. It is here that I realize I'm not special. I don't have special skills, or at least none that can propel me above the rest.

But after writing all these stuff down... I think I realize what defines me. This may change, but change is the only constant, no? :)

What defines me is how big my heart is. 

And I think that's good enough for me, thanks for your question, Lizzie xxx

Thank you, Baroness Schrader

I really don't know what to write when it comes to this. I've always loved the Baroness. I thought she was a woman of substance and elegance... and oh my gawdddd I loved her dress

Anyways, just heard today that she's passed on and felt compelled to note it down in a blogpost.

Maybe I'll figure out later what I really wanted to say, but for now - it's just thank you.

New year, new job!

Yes it's true! I've quit my current job and will be embarking on a new on just as the New Year comes in :)

 Image from Getty

Why'd I quit?

1. This place is a one minute drive (literally, I am NOT exaggerating) from where I live.
2. This job allows me more flexibility
3. It pays more!

Oh and one more reason, although I'm not sure if a lot of people will take me seriously about it... is that it's in the state of Selangor (which has more public holidays than Kuala Lumpur). 

I'll also be getting a two-week break between jobs so stay tuned for a holiday post!!! :)

Meeting my childhood idol

I'm still pretty chuffed about this whole thing. About 2 weeks ago I got a phone call telling me that I've won tickets to the Richard Clayderman Romantique Concert in KL. 

To top it off, it was a pair of gold tickets + a meet and greet!!! I'm finally meeting  my childhood dream musician play live AND I get to meet him! How great is that?

I won it via a Facebook contest and I really couldn't believe my ears when they called to let me know. 

So I called mum up to tell her that we're going to see Richard Clayderman play live, I cried. I really couldn't believe that I would meet the man who inspired me to play the piano.

This is him playing Ballade Pour Adeline. The only disappointment I felt during the entire concert was that the Gold seats were a bit TOO far away. I could barely see his face, I mean, they could put some other dude in place and I wouldn't know any better. Thank goodness for the two projector screens!!!

He's definitely aged quite a bit since, I mean I'm already past 30 :P but his playing is impeccable. I cried so many times throughout his performance because I felt sooo incredibly lucky and humbled to be there!

Then to top it off, we got to say hello to him! It was rather strict though, like they would only allow 10 people in at any one time and we were to only take group photos.

Unfortunately (or rather fortunately for us!),  there was a bit of a problem as we were about to enter. They pulled mum in without me and we really wanted to go in together. Then there was this little girl in front of me, whose mum wasn't allowed to go in with her (because they had only one pass), so I offered to accompany her in, just so that she wouldn't be alone. 

But after a bit of confusion here and there, they let the little girl in with one of the staff and I went in to join mum.

The best bit of this entire evening? Mum and I were the only ones in there with Richard so we got a personal photo with him :)

A whole new world

I recently went for an interview for another magazine. I really really miss the lifestyle and the work.

The position - Deputy Editor. 

Yeah I know. I'm exactly qualified but ill tell you one thing... I will work my ass off for it.

Wish me luck....

Iron Man 3 in 3D!!!

I was pretty lucky to have won 2 tix to the movie courtesy of the U.S. Embassy of KL!

They ran a contest on Facebook and all I had to do was answer a couple of questions!!!

I'll be honest - I wasn't that all excited for the move because, well, most sequels (trilogies) kinda suck. But hey! It's Tony Stark!

Well I'll let you know that I was pleasantly surprised and I liked the movie! (trying not to give any plot away).

Oh and in all Marvel movies... You'll know what to do when the credits roll

Ooohhh the Deppster on Family Guy?

I came across this article earlier and I'm like going "OMG OMG OMG!!!"

I loved Johnny as Edward Scissorhands... that character was so bizarre yet vulnerable...

Can't wait for the episode to air! :)